[reinaberg]

This post is from a community member who at the time would like to stay anonymous

"During a time when we were acquainted, she would make several comments that were along the lines of "If I don't do it, I do not think anyone else will and then people will get mad at Discord staff if I stop doing it."  I fear that she isn't going for Admin to actually be a leader who works with the team, but rather a pure authoritative figure who lays the hammer down…

This is referring to me talking about how I felt about the lack of activity on the staff team at the time. One of my biggest concerns when I was staffing alone was that if I resigned, I would receive the blame if the staff team remained inactive. I’m confused by the logic here because the comments I made had nothing to do with authority. I was just incredibly scared of letting people down. 


If this still is an issue, she needs to have more faith in her teammates' ability to accomplish things.

I do have faith in my teammates. I question or outright disagree with some decisions, but I don’t question their ability to staff the server. The actual comment (“i just feel like if i give up, people are gonna be upset with me if staff stays inactive”) had nothing to do with faith in my teammates, it was anxiety caused by what was already happening in the team and in real life. I’ve sorted out everything that was happening irl and the team is active so that anxiety is no longer an issue. 


My second concern with Reina is how she will deal with people she has a disagreement with or just outright doesn't like. Similarly to what Battons said, I fear that she can be too nonconfrontational at times and will complain about that person in other places rather than directly dealing with the issue.

I just prefer to vent about an incident to friends for a few minutes and then move on instead of picking a fight with the other person. I learned the hard way that I need to pick my battles. 


If someone says something that she isn't a fan of, she can come across as belittling them in an attempt to "ratio" them which can be frustrating considering how she usually can keep her head on a swivel. Nobody is perfect in terms of dealing with people they don't like, it just is something that isn't really becoming of one going for a top leader position.

I’ll continue working on my phrasing to avoid coming across this way. I have a habit of stating my opinion without any indication that it’s an opinion, which I agree can definitely come across as belittling. I appreciate the feedback. 

since this is anonymous, this is merely giving feedback."