[tiefling lesbian]

Compared to the majority of staff who tend only to step in when something is obviously taken too far and a majority of players are becoming uncomfortable,

While I disagree with other parts of your post, those are your opinions and that's fine, but this line in particular is something I feel is important to address.

The matter of discomfort is not majority rule. The majority of the server doesn't need to be uncomfortable with something for staff to intervene, even one person being uncomfortable is valid reason to move on from a subject. This obviously requires a level of staff discretion to determine whether someone is acting in good faith, but in general all players should be allowed to enjoy the server without having to listen to things that make them uncomfortable (and in a game that heavily involves communication, muting half the server isn't a viable solution). Staff aren't trying to ruin your fun when they tell you to move on from a conversation or stop doing something, they're telling you that your version of fun is unfairly costing others on the server theirs.

And just to make this clear, for everyone and in general, staff are players too and have just as much right as any other player to be uncomfortable or annoyed by something.