[bryanbrr]

Disclaimer: not attacking anyone! Just felt like the example you provided, Bryanbrr, wasn't an accurate example for furthering the discussion. It just didn't connect the dots between real life and your point. No worries if this isn't mindchanging stuff, but I hope this adds to the discussion amicably.

I love enriching conversations to enhance learning. It's one of my favorite things. I rarely take things personally so no worries for disagreeing. 

To clarify further, my example was used to reinforce the need to understand both directions of communication. Not just in a one-sided way. In my example, if I feel like my boss is saying that I'm lazy and not doing my job well, its my responsibility to make sure that I am understanding their message correctly by restating what I've heard. This makes sure there is alignment with the intention and the impact it's making because it clears up the interpretation of the message. It's also the responsibility of the speaker to ask questions to make sure that their message is being heard in the way it's meant to be understood. (Which is clarified in Embery's post and I agree with it). What happens a lot is that we make assumptions on both ends. Speakers assume their message was heard and listeners assume that the speaker's words meant what they think they heard. This goes to my point that both intention and impact are important. Both sides need to have clarity and that involves active listening and being curious. 

Love the discussion <3