04-29-2024, 04:31 PM
I know I have kinda stepped away, but for anyone that is looking for ways to solve the drama surrounding the community or simply find a better environment for themselves I would like to offer some advice.
First I would take a look at this and do some research: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_dr...y_movement
Offers some good insight into the dynamics that perpetuate these scenarios that seem to plague dinks. I have also linked it before, albeit in a bit more of a condescending tone. So I understand if people were not receptive to it at the time. However I hope that people are willing to look at it and maybe do some self reflection. I know I have, thankfully.
If you want a tldr to what that Wikipedia page says the solution is. It pretty much boils down to personal vulnerability, unbiased empathy and understanding personal boundaries.
I am not going to pretend to really understand the entire history surrounding Dinks for as long as its been around or all of its problems, but I do know that the problems seem to extend beyond interpersonal. I definitely think it would be worth it for everyone to work on themselves and their emotional health, i.e. having their metaphorical ducks in order before engaging on here. Alternatively making sure that dinks is not a major/sole form of social interaction, this is not to shame anyone that does this, I just genuinely think that it is unhealthy to do so. The internet as a whole can be a pretty unforgiving place, and if not addressed properly can leave some mental scarring which spirals into even more unhealthy habits and thought patterns.
We all definitely need some forgiveness every once and a while, and I hope everyone here can seek to do so. If it seems to be the case that it can't I would encourage people to cut their losses. As much as I loved hanging with many people from this community the past year, it is not healthy nor obligatory for you to sacrifice yourself for people that do not want to change.
I do hope this server can make a comeback, I probably won't be here to see it. However, I wish you all the best and hope that you can find a healthier form of community!
First I would take a look at this and do some research: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_dr...y_movement
Offers some good insight into the dynamics that perpetuate these scenarios that seem to plague dinks. I have also linked it before, albeit in a bit more of a condescending tone. So I understand if people were not receptive to it at the time. However I hope that people are willing to look at it and maybe do some self reflection. I know I have, thankfully.
If you want a tldr to what that Wikipedia page says the solution is. It pretty much boils down to personal vulnerability, unbiased empathy and understanding personal boundaries.
I am not going to pretend to really understand the entire history surrounding Dinks for as long as its been around or all of its problems, but I do know that the problems seem to extend beyond interpersonal. I definitely think it would be worth it for everyone to work on themselves and their emotional health, i.e. having their metaphorical ducks in order before engaging on here. Alternatively making sure that dinks is not a major/sole form of social interaction, this is not to shame anyone that does this, I just genuinely think that it is unhealthy to do so. The internet as a whole can be a pretty unforgiving place, and if not addressed properly can leave some mental scarring which spirals into even more unhealthy habits and thought patterns.
We all definitely need some forgiveness every once and a while, and I hope everyone here can seek to do so. If it seems to be the case that it can't I would encourage people to cut their losses. As much as I loved hanging with many people from this community the past year, it is not healthy nor obligatory for you to sacrifice yourself for people that do not want to change.
I do hope this server can make a comeback, I probably won't be here to see it. However, I wish you all the best and hope that you can find a healthier form of community!
