12-29-2024, 06:49 PM
I don’t post on the forums often, but I wanted to chime in on this topic.
Foremost, my condolences to you and your family for your loss. It’s not easy to say goodbye, and I hope the best for you in your time of grieving.
A large majority of this community seems to be young adults to those upcoming into adulthood, so I will share what I’ve personally learned on this topic: 1) Do not push away those that care about you and 2) If it’s too late or you can’t comprehend your loss, don’t break yourself finding answers to things you left unresolved.
I made the mistake of pushing someone away that was bedridden with cancer. They used to say things like, “I cannot wait to pass,” and when they did, I was hoping my choices would make it easier to let go - it wasn’t, and it’s one of the most painful experiences that still haunt me years later. I was selfish for being unable to set my emotions aside and provide them comfort, so I left so much unsaid.
I still listen to their voicemails, I beat myself up for leaving things unsaid, and for a long time I questioned if they knew how much they meant to me before they passed.
As mentioned, appreciate those around you. Give your family member a phone call. Tell that person you love them. Small actions: clean the dishes, take out the trash, sit at the dinner table; it could be empty one day.
Again, my condolences.
Foremost, my condolences to you and your family for your loss. It’s not easy to say goodbye, and I hope the best for you in your time of grieving.
A large majority of this community seems to be young adults to those upcoming into adulthood, so I will share what I’ve personally learned on this topic: 1) Do not push away those that care about you and 2) If it’s too late or you can’t comprehend your loss, don’t break yourself finding answers to things you left unresolved.
I made the mistake of pushing someone away that was bedridden with cancer. They used to say things like, “I cannot wait to pass,” and when they did, I was hoping my choices would make it easier to let go - it wasn’t, and it’s one of the most painful experiences that still haunt me years later. I was selfish for being unable to set my emotions aside and provide them comfort, so I left so much unsaid.
I still listen to their voicemails, I beat myself up for leaving things unsaid, and for a long time I questioned if they knew how much they meant to me before they passed.
As mentioned, appreciate those around you. Give your family member a phone call. Tell that person you love them. Small actions: clean the dishes, take out the trash, sit at the dinner table; it could be empty one day.
Again, my condolences.
