[BIIG_SAD]

Hi everyone.

Recently, my grandfather of 95 years of age passed away. It happened so very suddenly and kind of out of the blue. I wish I had hugged him tighter the last time that I had seen him and that I had visited him more often. 

But that's life. Life doesn't wait for anything.

my grandfather was born and raised in an asian country during a time of many hardships, and this would translate into becoming a very humble man who was many things including generous, kind, loving, and wise. his favorite thing was sharing meals with family (haha, something something dwayne the rock johnson joke). 


point is to go hug your loved ones. also share a meal with them.


iunno.


-biig_sad

[Jammin]

I'm going to see my grandmother tomorrow. We had a hospital scare with her the other day, so definitely taking this advice to heart

[Demi Lovato's Heroin Spoon]

I don’t post on the forums often, but I wanted to chime in on this topic.

Foremost, my condolences to you and your family for your loss. It’s not easy to say goodbye, and I hope the best for you in your time of grieving.

A large majority of this community seems to be young adults to those upcoming into adulthood, so I will share what I’ve personally learned on this topic: 1) Do not push away those that care about you and 2) If it’s too late or you can’t comprehend your loss, don’t break yourself finding answers to things you left unresolved.

I made the mistake of pushing someone away that was bedridden with cancer. They used to say things like, “I cannot wait to pass,” and when they did, I was hoping my choices would make it easier to let go - it wasn’t, and it’s one of the most painful experiences that still haunt me years later. I was selfish for being unable to set my emotions aside and provide them comfort, so I left so much unsaid.

I still listen to their voicemails, I beat myself up for leaving things unsaid, and for a long time I questioned if they knew how much they meant to me before they passed.

As mentioned, appreciate those around you. Give your family member a phone call. Tell that person you love them. Small actions: clean the dishes, take out the trash, sit at the dinner table; it could be empty one day.

Again, my condolences.